Dear brothers and sisters
Today I want to write about the subject of “Home” and “Family” and what unites the family.
Christ says: “Who are my mother and my brothers?” And looking around at those seated in the circle he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of God is my brother and sister and mother.” (Mk 3:34-35)
What brings about the unity of the family? Sure, we are all united by the fact that we all come from the same biological parents. But is that a true unity? As a priest, I have often assisted families where the children don’t talk to each other after their parents die, often because of feuds over money. What kept them united was their love and respect of the parents, when the parents go, there is no longer any reason for them to stay together. Therefore, the biological unity is not the deepest form of unity. If we are to be united it should be at deeper, spiritual level. Our unity should be in God, searching together for His will and seeking to do it.
Is Jesus saying that His mother is not as important? By no means! He is simply putting an order to this. He is saying that His mother is mother first of all by the fact the she does the will of God, and only secondarily on the biological level.
But how does this translate? Here are a few practical points to help us:
Instead of running after our children, making sure that they get everything done, we should be leading them somewhere. Where are we leading them? Do we intentionally lead them to God, or is it just another thing that we do?
Do we put our children before everything? If so, then we are wrong. God must come first. Neither parents that neglect their children nor those that focus too much on them are good for children. Do you have a life with God? Do we actively seek to do the will of God in our lives?
Do we unite our homes in and through prayer? “A family that prays together stays together.” If we seek to unite our families we should do this first of all in and through prayer. If we pray together every day, our glue will be God.
I realise that many families don’t have the opportunity to be united in God. Perhaps the mother or father does not believe. There can still be a deeper unity than simply being all from the same parents. One important way is through searching for the truth together and talking things out on subjects that interest everyone, another way is through common activities. Nevertheless, as a Christian, our greatest family is found in those who are united with me at the deepest level, those united in doing God’s will.
May we be thus united as a Parish.
Fr Michael Thérèse